Recognizing the Signs: Is Your Child Falling Behind in Language Skills?
- fablette
- Aug 14
- 3 min read
The way we notice, interpret, and respond to our child’s language development can shape their confidence and future learning.
The words our children use and the stories they tell, are more than just milestones. They’re windows into how they see and connect with the world. Language is the foundation for learning, friendships, and emotional well-being - and when a child struggles to communicate, their sense of self and belonging can be affected too.
As parents, it’s easy to compare your child’s language to that of their peers or siblings, but every child’s journey is unique. The key is to notice patterns and trust your instincts. You know your child best!
Early detection makes a huge difference
Many parents hesitate to look for signs of developmental delay, often out of fear of labeling their child. But recognizing true red flags early can make a big difference. When there is a delay, getting the right support sooner rather than later leads to much better outcomes, especially during the early years when a child’s brain is most adaptable.
As parents, the stories we tell ourselves—like “I’m just being paranoid” or “I don’t want to overreact”—can shape whether and when we seek help.
By learning what to really look out for, you can make confident, informed choices. Early support doesn’t bring stigma—it unlocks growth, connection, and thriving.
What are the signs?
Here are some signs to watch from the American Speech Hearing Language Association:
Does not smile or interact with others (birth and older)
Does not babble (4–6 months)
Makes only a few sounds or gestures, like reaching (7–9 months)
Does not understand what others say (10 months – 2 years)
Says only a few words (19 months – 2 years)
Does not put words together to make sentences (19 months – 3 years)
Speaks using words that are not easily understood by others (3–4 years)
Has trouble with early reading skills, like pretending to read or finding the front of a book (4–5 years)
Reframing the narrative
It’s natural to feel anxious or even guilty if we suspect our children are falling behind. But remember: noticing a challenge is not a reflection of our parenting, more so an act of care and advocacy. By recognizing and responding to our children’s needs, we're helping them build confidence and resilience.
Just as positive self-talk can empower adults, the way we talk about our child’s journey can empower them. Frame language learning as an adventure, not a deficit. Celebrate small steps, and let our kids know that everyone learns at their own pace.
Our awareness and advocacy as parents are powerful tools in a child’s language journey. By recognizing signs early and responding with curiosity and support, we can help our kids find their voice in the world.
What to do if something feels off
If you notice signs that concern you, consider these steps:
Talk to a pediatrician and share your observations.
Consult a speech-language pathologist for a professional evaluation.
Engage in language-rich activities with your child by reading together, narrating your day, and encouraging back-and-forth conversation.
Find support networks to bounce ideas, early support.
Want to support your child’s language journey?
We’re creating a multilingual audio story app that encourages kids to listen closely, express themselves, and explore new perspectives through language. Help us shape an experience that supports every child’s voice by joining our beta group today!
